What’s YOUR most sexually embarrassing moment?

Shane: Having sex with this majorly hot guy after being up for 24 hours doing tons of coke and G and I couldn’t get it up. A problem which had never occurred before and has never happened since. I think it was a combo of the drugs and the guy being so smokin’, but I choked, or my dick choked anyway…

How did you meet your boyfriend?

Shane: Funny enough - on-line, but not in a sex chatroom. After we first talked he kept asking me out on a date but I said no as I had recently gotten out of a very bad relationship and I was leaving shortly for Greece and Turkey to finish work on my thesis. But he was persistant and when I arrived back in Seattle after two months we went out on our first date, and the rest is history!

What’s your favorite thing about San Francisco?

Shane: My house.

What do you wear to bed?

Shane: Nothing.

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Where and when else can you dance to fierce old disco from the 70’s, on a Sunday night no less?

If you live in San Francisco this will be the place to be Sunday, April 24, 2005. All the cool kids will be there, including me.

Yesterday I heard a report on NPR’s All Things Considered which discussed the epidemic of crystal currently wreaking havoc on the gay community.

The report featured a “Gay and Lesbian Spokesman” (whatever THAT is) who blamed everyone and everything else but the addicts, in the following order, for Crystal use:

1. The fear of becoming HIV (tell me how snorting or slamming crystal and having unprotected sex with hundreds of other tweakers helps you assuage that fear?).
2. The old and reliable boogyman - Homophobia.
3. Fear of your family rejecting you because they know you’re gay.

Let’s be honest here. Gay men take drugs because drug use is more accepted in the gay community. It’s a major part of gay, urban lifestyles and it’s been tolerated and even encouraged ever since the gay community began coming out of the closet, en masse, in the 70’s.

How would I know? Geez, I’ve done scads of drugs: coke, crystal, G, ecstacy, K, pot, acid, ’shrooms, more than I can or want to remember. Get involved in the party lifestyle, like I did, and all doors to the glamorous A-list gay life swing wide open. Thank G-d I had enough self-awareness to get out before I ended up an addict and/or HIV . Unfortunately so many of my “friends” from those days can’t say the same, they’re all either dead, in jail or HIV themselves.

Here in San Francisco the local gay rag is far more interested in a renewed campaign to reopen the bathhouses, citing “a generation of young gay men who never got to experience the brotherhood of the baths” than it is in helping to halt the horrific epidemic of crystal which is decimating that same generation.

I’m sure they’re interested in all those “young gay men,” I have no doubt about the veracity of that statement. Unfortunately they’re interested in screwing the asses of these “young gay men” and not in helping them to lead healthier, drug-free lives.

Such are the terribly misplaced priorities of our supposed “gay leaders.” They did little-to-nothing in the early 80’s, helping to keep bathhouses open while gay men fucked themselves to death in establishments they counted on their “leaders” to make sure were safe.

You’d think things would have changed, that we as gay men would be taking more responsibility. But why should we when we can always blame everyone else for our actions?

• “It’s not my fault I’m a meth-head, I’m scared that my parents will reject me if they find out I’m gay”
• “It’s not my fault I’m addicted to crystal, I’m scared of getting HIV and crystal makes me feel so much better and more able to handle that fear.”
• “Homophobia made me do it! Those big, bad straights don’t like me so I’m going to become a drug addict and show them a thing or two!”

Disgusting, wrong and scarily, exactly the same things people said in the 70’s and 80’s.

I got home last night around 2:30 AM and realized that I was sans phone.

I called my number and some guy picked up. I said “who is this? Because I’m the owner of the phone you’re talking on” and he said “I’m the cab driver whose cab you left the phone in and here’s the deal, after I drop off this current passenger I’m going to put the meter on and come to your house and then you pay me for the phone.”

So I said “OK, but you may have to take me to the ATM as I only have $7.00.”

He shows up and the meter is $11.50, so the cabbie asks me “Do you have any cookies in the house?” and I’m all “uhhhh, well, we have a couple of Scottish shortbreads” and he said “Bring those out, along with the $7.00 and we’ll be even.”

So the moral of the story is I got my phone back after forking over a package of Scottish shortbread and $7.00, a small price to pay for having it dropped off at my front door.

Oh, our cat today brought a live lizard into the house, instead of her normal gift of a rat, and the lizard bit me when I picked it up to put it outside.

The ol’ ball-’n-chain is out of town for the weekend, having gone to San Diego to hang with his friends and see the U2 concert.

Yippee! Tonight I’m going to go out BY MYSELF and get wasted, for the first time in a LONG time. It’ll be like I’m single again, except I can’t have sex with anyone else. But I can make out with other guys and go to hot tub parties and go dancing, as long as it’s all above the waist. It’s not like I’ll actually do any of those things, but I think it’s good to have time separate from one’s boyfriend every so often.

But until tonight I’ve got to sit around the house waiting for the handyman to show up to fix the kitchen sink. A nice day like this and I want to be out doing things but I suppose I’ll save my energy for this evening.

Last night was one of the those nights that makes me fervently thankful to live in the hills of San Francisco with the most amazing view in the world. It was a full moon and the light on the bay reflected so the surface looked like it was coated with liquid silver, absolutely amazing.

Irony is the fact that Terry Schiavo is now basically starving to death yet self-starvation is what got her into this mess in the first place.

In case anyone forgot - Terry Schiavo is now in a vegetative state because she was such a severe bulimic that she starved her body of the potassium it needed to function properly and her heart stopped. In other words, she puked and puked up her food until her body shut down.

So when Terry’s parents say “Terry wouldn’t want to starve to death” they’re ignoring the fact that she starved herself almost to death in the first place. Her husband is now just completing the process.

I don’t want to sound uncaring. I know the parents don’t want to see their daughter die, but Terry is not the person she once was. She’s a shell, a living husk with no brain function, and for her parents to put her through these repeated bouts with almost-starvation (this is the third time the feeding tube has been removed) is not the ultimate sign of love, as they claim but instead the ultimate betrayal.

Around my house we refer to rehab as “Arizona,” An example would be “I heard so-and-so is in Arizona again.” It allows for polite conversation in public places without revealing the actual fate of the person being discussed.

I myself have never been to Arizona, officially that is. By that I mean I’ve entered a self-imposed state of Arizona at several points in my life but have yet to actually visit the state.

But poor Whitney Houston. She’s been to Arizona so many times, I don’t think there’s a corner of the state she hasn’t visited. If she keeps this up we’ll soon have to coin a new term for rehab.

Remember - Whitney says “Crack is whack!”

This is a pic I took in Zurich in January.

Beyond the issue of Egypt’s disgusting anti-semitism there are numerous reasons for the US to oppose granting a permanent UN Security Council seat to both Egypt and Germany.

Why was Egypt recommended in the first place? Because it’s in Africa and/or it’s a Muslim country and there are no African/Muslim permanent members on the Security Council?

Both, if I am correct, are flawed reasons. There is no African or Muslim permanent member on the Security Council because there is no African/Muslim country worthy of sitting on the council in the first place. Flawed formulas for new permanent members always include the issue of population. Just because a country can’t control its population doesn’t mean it should have a seat on the Security Council.

Egypt is not a democracy, allows terrorism against Israel from its borders, oppresses its own people, discriminates against its Christian population, expelled its Jewish population to Israel in 1948 without compensation and has a history of sheltering Nazi war criminals and carrying out aggressive wars against its neighbors. For this it is being rewarded with a Security Council seat?

Germany - ahhh where to start. The overriding reason for Germany NOT to have a permanent seat on the Security Council is its pacifist constitution (the primary role of the Security Council as declared by the UN Charter is to authorize the use of force to keep peace, how can there be members who are consistently opposed to the use of force in the first place?) and the eagerness of the EU for a role in foreign policy. Just as New York and California don’t have seats on the Security Council so too should Germany not have a seat.

As a matter of fact France should give up its seat to the EU and allow the EU executive to represent “European” concerns. Fat chance. The French claim to “international power” rests on their permanent seat on the Security Council in the first place (a mistake, I might add, for which we should never forgive Eisenhower and Churchill).

I’m a strong supporter of the UN but allowing two completely misguided nations like Egypt and Germany to have permanent seats, with veto power, on the Security Council would destroy the UN, not make it stronger.

India - Yes. As far as the others it’s going to take some convincing and the case for Egypt and Germany is not clear and not supported by the facts.